Tinker

Everybody supports womenUntil a woman's doing better than you🤫 Everybody wants you to love yourself until you actually do😒 Everybody Supports Women - Sofía Isella

As children, we loved the heroes. As adults, we understand the villains. ✍🏻

🎵 Hear it in your toneYou're slowly letting goAre you turning off your phone?Feelings turned coldSo cold, for youSo cold, for youBeanie - ChezileVideo cr: _mrpiano_

Triff keine Entscheidungen basierend auf dem Potenzial einer Person.👂 Wenn dir jemand zeigt, wer er ist, glaub ihm.So will er sein, bis er sich entscheidet, anders zu sein.💥

Dry ice, you’re so interesting. You put on quite a show laced with cold smoke and white beauty, and the stories of your creation are fascinating… but you dissipate so quickly. I can’t trust you to stay for more than two days without coming back to find you half there, and your other half mysteriously vanished. I’ve done my best to contain you, calmly wrapping the lid of your container with Saran Wrap and bags, hoping you’ll endure. Alas, your cyclical story stays the same, like the seasons changing with the wind, until I invest in far more than you could ever account for… knowingly so, but true. I’ll see you again soon, and as always, wear my gloves to keep me warm and protect me from your icy touch, and my mask from your insidious fog.

💭 Are you a shadow empath? ✨ 🐦⬛ In psychology, empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Recently, I learned about shadow empathy which takes this even further! It’s the capacity to perceive and connect not only with someone’s superficial emotions, but also with their hidden wounds, suppressed feelings, and the more difficult aspects of their personality.On the flip side, it turns out that some people resonate more with what could be called light empathy. This is an informal term for empathy that focuses on the uplifting, encouraging, and nurturing side of human connection. It leans toward comfort, optimism, and highlighting the best in others. Unlike regular empathy, which focuses on the more visible or socially acceptable emotions, shadow empathy recognizes that human beings are complex. It acknowledges that light and darkness often coexist in the same person, and that understanding someone fully means seeing both.Contrary to what we may think, shadow and light empathy aren’t really opposites, but complements. I see it very much like the yin and yang found in Chinese philosophy. True understanding comes from embracing the full spectrum of human nature.Also, it’s important not to confuse certain traits of shadow empathy with narcissism. Narcissists are characterized by lack of empathy but may mirror emotions to manipulate or gain control, while shadow empaths do experience empathy and may mirror to create understanding and foster healing. One is self-serving while the other is compassionate and grounded.On to my next point! I’ve created a quick, fun little quiz to see if you might be a shadow empath!You may need a pen and paper. Scoring:Yes = 2 points Sometimes = 1 point No = 0 points

There’s been a song stuck in my head lately! It’s called ‘Ordinary’ by Alex Warren. It wasn’t until today that I finally looked up the lyrics and watched both versions of the music video on YouTube. One line in particular just stopped me in my tracks:“The angels up in the clouds are jealous knowing we found something so out of the ordinary.”What a beautiful and powerful sentiment. 🥹🥲So, after digging a little deeper, I learned that Alex Warren, the songwriter, has said he’s been influenced by Justin Bieber, Shawn Mendes, and even church music which explains a lot of the song’s religious undertones. But what really touched me the most wasn’t just the melody or the lyrics, it was the context behind it all. In one video version, he chose his own wife to play the lead female. In the other, he used real footage from their actual wedding. And wow… the way he kissed his wife? Men, take notes. Haha. 😜It really made me smile and gave me hope that in a world where relationships often feel shallow and connections seem so fragile, there are still people holding on to each other and honoring love. Especially knowing that Alex was once homeless, that he lost both his parents, and yet through it all, his wife stood by him.Love isn’t just attraction and passion. It’s looking into someone’s eyes and noticing the tiniest twinkle… and feeling a vibration deep inside. It’s standing by your partner every single day, even after life knocks you both down. It’s consistency. It can also be……a single violet picked on the way home, just because. Or saving the last piece of baklava because it’s their favorite.Maybe buying two of your favorite drinks instead of one.Sometimes giving healthy space and silence to recalibrate.And also a random kiss on the lips.So many little, but deeply significant things.Love really, really is out of the ordinary.On this side of Heaven's gateOh, my life, how do yaBreathe and take my breath away?

Hi everyone! What you’re seeing in the picture is called a murmuration, and it’s when thousands of starlings (or other birds) fly together, creating beautiful, dance-like patterns in the sky. They’ve developed this technique over thousands of years to confuse predators, communicate, and navigate to ideal roosting spots.Unlike the familiar V-formation led by a single leader, starlings follow a decentralized system. Each bird watches its nearest six or seven neighbors, matching their speed and direction while keeping a safe distance. This chain of micro-adjustments lets the whole flock twist, fold, and change direction instantly without collisions. This is a phenomenon scientists call self-organized criticality. The same principle appears in schools of fish.At sunset, the display becomes even more magical. As sunlight passes through more of Earth’s atmosphere, shorter blue wavelengths scatter, allowing warm reds, oranges, and pinks to paint the sky. I think it looks like a painting. Watching their movement reminds me that we don’t always need a rigid, copy-and-paste system from others. Sometimes a decentralized, cooperative approach, where each of us adapts and supports those closest to us, can be just as effective. And sometimes, a bit of deconstruction is necessary to truly see what we need in order to move toward prosperity.~Tinker 🥰

“Movement is medicine.”Sometimes, we get so consumed by our thoughts. Lately, I’ve noticed many friends feeling down, alone, depressed, or even purposeless. I get it… life can be heavy. But here’s something amazing: when we move, our body isn’t only releasing feel-good endorphins, it’s actively trying to make us feel better by making endocannabinoids, natural cannabis-like molecules that we produce on demand.They’re made from healthy fats in your cells, and endocannabinoids like anandamide (named after the Sanskrit word for “bliss”) help regulate mood, ease pain, calm inflammation, protect the brain, and support immune health. They act on two main types of receptors: CB1, found mostly in the brain and nervous system, and CB2, found mainly in the immune system. Once their job is done, they’re broken down quickly, keeping the system in balance. Who needs MJ! Movement is one of the fastest ways to activate this natural chemistry, but it’s not the only way. Foods like dark chocolate contain compounds that can help boost anandamide levels too, making you feel even better, and who doesn’t like a bit of chocolate? 🍫 Sometimes, all you have to do is shake your body, literally. Stop thinking, and just move.~Tinker 🥰

Hello, everyone! Hallo! Ni hao! Salaam!Have you ever really thought about what “the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth” actually means? I’m sure you automatically associate it with being on the stand, but what if we’re confronted by this statement much more often than we think?Today, I learned something fascinating from a book I’m reading called ‘Spy the Lie’, written by former CIA officers. It turns out that the aforementioned statement is referring to three different types of lies, and each one has its own shape and purpose.Let me share them with you:1.The lie of commissionThis is the most obvious kind: a direct, intentional falsehood.Example: Saying, “I wasn’t there,” when you absolutely were. 🧐2.The lie of omissionThis one is sneakier. It’s when someone leaves out important information that would change the story entirely.Example: “We had a quiet night,” (but failing to mention they left the house for three hours in the middle of it). 🤨3.The lie of influenceThis one surprised me the most. It’s when someone tries to manipulate your perception rather than answering a question directly.Example: “I’m a very honest person. Ask anyone who knows me.” 😒(Notice how they didn’t actually answer the question.)Truth-telling isn’t just about avoiding lies! It’s about what we say, what we don’t say, and how we try to sway others.Before I go, something that surprised me is that according to the book, the average person lies up to 200 times a day! Most of it without even realizing it.So… how many lies did you catch today?

✨ Can we be less judgmental? 🫶Today I was at the park with my doggie, just enjoying the breeze and the simplicity of the moment, when I overheard a conversation from a group of ladies nearby that made me pause.A mom, who seemed to be having a hard time controlling her son, was being judged by her own family members because her child was acting out. They blamed the television. “He watches too much TV, that’s why,” they said. But as I listened more closely, I heard something else. She’s a single mom. She works long hours to make ends meet. And I couldn’t help but wonder, why are we so quick to pass judgment, but so slow to offer understanding?Human beings are social creatures. We’re wired to flock together. We find comfort in what’s familiar and even in diverse communities, we subconsciously seek shared values, language, customs. But that same wiring can also close us off from perspectives that don’t align with our own traditions or expectations.I don’t know her past history, obviously, but even without the context and details I couldn’t help but think: If that mother had more support and less criticism, more helping hands and fewer pointed fingers, she could thrive. Her child could thrive.It made me reflect on how much modern life has fragmented what used to be communal. Perhaps we were never meant to raise children or navigate life, as a matter of fact, all alone. Maybe we’re meant to live in circles of care, where responsibility is shared, not divided by gender, roles, or outdated norms.How long will we hold on to patriarchal expectations that burden women and mothers disproportionately? How long before compassion and community become the standard, not the exception?I don’t have the answers. But I do have the question:Can we be less judgmental… and more human?I wonder.🌿