Mahpara

Manners and civility are the bedrock of personal growth and societal progress. Being savage or unnecessarily rude might grab attention, but it’s fleeting and hollow. True strength lies in patience, respect, and thoughtful behavior qualities that build lasting connections and character. The foundation starts at home and school, but self-awareness and effort can refine anyone, anywhere. No matter how brilliant you are, without manners, you’re missing the mark. It’s a thick line to cross, but worth the effort for both men and women.

When you align your thoughts, intentions, and patience with goodness and sincerity, it opens the door to endless possibilities. Believing in miracles and maintaining a pure heart can indeed invite divine intervention, as Allah can transform any situation in an instant. This mindset fosters hope and resilience, trusting that everything happens for a reason under divine wisdom. The power to change yourself lies within you...At every turn of life, you might hope that someone will come to save you, to hold your hand and guide you. But the truth is, you are the true hero of your own life.No one will do everything for you. Until you awaken from within, no help will make a difference. Remember You can mend your broken dreams. You can overcome your despair. You can ignite the light within you.Others may inspire you, but only you can truly save yourself. 🙂 🌸

Those who find happiness in the smallest things, I am among the first in their ranks. I don’t believe in something called eternal happiness.Walking along a grassy path, getting wet in the rain, hearing a favorite song play at the perfect moment on a random playlist, reading books,praying, cycling by the river, spending a couple of colorful evenings with friends each week, watching a reddish sunset at the end of the day, having tea and chats with my parents, or seeing my siblings on a video call these are enough to make me happy.My joy is like the seven taka potato chips when I was a child the number of chips inside is modest, but the happiness is immense. And perhaps because of this, even though countless worries crease my forehead, I keep going, driven by the greed to savor the moments of joy yet to come.And perhaps for this reason, when depression tries to choke me, I say, Why don’t you massage my neck instead? It’s been hurting.😊

You’ll meet lots of people around you, push through crowds, and hear all sorts of chatter. You Don't need to talk to all people. The only job is to ignore it. Some people will come into your life to spread trash and pull them out like weeds. You have to set your own boundaries in life. You must prioritize quality over quantity. your negativity, step away from it.When others are busy criticizing you, that’s exactly when you should plant a tree, go for a walk, tidy your home, read a story, look at old photos, play badminton, take pictures, go out for tea, pray, or in short, don’t react to their words. Let them say what they want if it reaches your ears, let it go. At the end of the day, you know who you are, what you’re like, and you also know that those who talk don’t matter to you. That’s it.Set a boundary. Open up only to those you can breathe freely with, those in front of whom you feel comfortable standing like a mirror. Explain yourself to them, lean on them, because they probably don’t want to see you in a bad light. As for the rest of the world, shake them off like dust.Keep in mind that life is short,life is beautiful. The life you’re living is incredibly beautiful. You don’t have to respond to everything, react to everything, or explain yourself to everyone. If you can’t let go of these, the loss is yours alone.

Sometimes, it's your friends who keep your enemies updated. Be careful. We live in a world where your joy gives people problems and your problems, gives them joy. So, be careful who you call your friends.Understand that disappointment is not a bad thing. When something we dislike happens, we think it’s a mistake. We get upset. We forget that Allah is in control. He sees things we don’t.The bigger picture will emerge soon, and we will thank Him for His Infinite Wisdom.Ya Allah! Clean our souls and perfect our tongue in Zikirillah Ameen. Bring happiness and joy to our lives, relieve our distress, and forgive our parents, Ameen. Guide our Ways, Qualify our Deeds, Forgive our Sins Ameen. Accept our prayers, protect us from the punishment of Hell Fire, and grant us death with IMAN (FAITH). Ameen ya Rabbil Alameen Juma'at Mubarak.(Mufti Menk)

As an adult, the hardest lesson in life is that no matter how much we break down inside, the relentless pressure to survive forces us to keep moving forward. Life never pauses it keeps going. Even when we are exhausted, hurt, or shattered by the grief of losing loved ones, life doesn’t wait for our pain.Adapting to this pressure is also challenging. We grow up believing that everything has a happy ending. But in reality, we often have to survive by pretending everything is fine, even when we’re falling apart inside. The most difficult part of this process is enduring the weight of pain silently, without letting it show on our faces, and carrying on with the day.Yet, through all this, we discover an unknown strength within ourselves. No matter how heavy the burden, we move forward because we have an inherent will and courage to survive. This harsh reality of life awakens our inner strength and prepares us to live a new each day.

To me, the meaning of life is simple breathing beautifully, seeking dewdrops on the grass, caring for the people around me, and learning from them. Reflecting on myself, finding my flaws, and striving for self-improvement. Not being trapped in the fake web of seeking attention.

Building a personality is a matter of great effort. You can talk, have fun, but maintain limitations and boundaries this doesn’t mean being harsh or rigid. There should be firmness in your character, so that when someone makes negative or offensive comments, you don’t indulge them but strive to resist and counter them in a polite way.

"As long as there is breath, there is hope, so give thanks to Allah until you breathe beautifully."She was pretty. She spent half of her life plucking, waxing, moisturizing, dieting, exercising, brushing, applying makeup, tucking this, hiding that, buying this and buying that. Wore clothes that hung gracefully to her shape, accessories to add taste, fake eyelashes here, fake extensions there, piercing this and tattooing that. "It is my body" she argued to those who criticized her. Then came the day she died. She was locked in a box and the key was thrown away. Her coffin left to lay in the dirt, where her body will slowly disintegrate to nothing as the maggots feast on the skin she used to take so much care of. "It's my body" she argued. It was never hers' but it was given by Allah. For if it was her body surely she'd have never left it behind. "Indeed, we belong to Allah and indeed, to Him will we return" (Surah Baqarah: 156) Oh ya Allah! Forgive all of our sins, major and minor, those that are apparent and those that are hidden. And guide us to the right path. Ameen.

We often lose a lot of energy trying to explain ourselves, prove our point, or correct what others think about us without even realizing it. Constantly justifying or defending our actions makes life harder. But here’s the truth you don’t need to prove yourself to everyone.People will always be judgmental. Some will misunderstand you, and others will make wrong comments even after knowing the full truth. Their opinions are not yours, they’re a reflection of their mindset. The more you try to prove your worth or truth, the more emotionally exhausted you become. You might feel like you’re not enough but you are enough. You’re doing just fine.Your job is to live for your peace and purpose, not to meet everyone’s expectations. Letting go doesn’t make you weak, it makes you wise. You know who you are and what your value is, and that knowledge is your strength.So, chill Stop worrying about what others say or think. You don’t need to react to everything or constantly explain yourself. Protect your energy. Focus on your happiness and goals. True peace comes when you realize you weren’t born to be a people pleaser.

Stay strong in tough timesEvery person faces difficult situations at some point in life. Sometimes it’s the distance from loved ones, sometimes the uncertainty of a job, or sometimes the loneliness within. These struggles seem to come to break us, but remember, the darkest moments arrive just before a new dawn.Tough times don’t mean the end they are the best opportunity to discover your inner strength. Your tears, frustrations, and moments of breaking down are all natural. Yet, in the midst of that pain, you are still alive, moving forward, and fighting and this resilience is the greatest proof of your courage.Your pain has value. Your efforts matter. Maybe no one understands today, but you are the hero of your own story.Love yourself. Give yourself time. Take care of yourself. Seek help if needed.A day will come when you look back and see that these tough times shaped you into a stronger version of yourself.Don’t give up. Keep going. You are not alone.

Allah does not require any soul more than what it can afford. All good will be for its own benefit, and all evil will be to its own loss. ˹The believers pray,˺ “Our Lord! Do not punish us if we forget or make a mistake. Our Lord! Do not place a burden on us like the one you placed on those before us. Our Lord! Do not burden us with what we cannot bear. Pardon us, forgive us, and have mercy on us. You are our ˹only˺ Guardian. So grant us victory over the disbelieving people.” (Surah Baqarah ayat 286)

I’m not in any competition.I didn’t come to race for people’s affection. I don’t enjoy turning myself into a competitor to win love.Those who will love me will love me as I am.For my true self—just as it is. With my flaws, my virtues, my ordinary or imperfect form.Honestly, I’m not in any competition.I’m not here to explain or present myself as perfect to anyone. Nor do I support hiding my bad side, like hypocrites, to appear virtuous.I am what I am.Bad or good, it’s still me. I don’t need to conform to everyone else’s pace. I move at my own rhythm. I love living a simple life. I didn’t come to be a competitor.I never want to join the race to prove myself good in a crowd of pretenders. I have no desire to present myself as the best. I want to be the best version of myself for myself.I’m not in any competition.I live my own way, I exist as I am. Even if I don’t become someone’s favorite, even if I don’t earn people’s love, I stay true to myself. Whether someone loves me or not, I’m not a mask-wearer. I’m a peace-loving person, living my own way.

Learn to set healthy boundaries for your own well-being. That doesn’t mean you can’t be a kind and caring person. Learn when to walk away & when to work things out. You can’t control how people treat you but you can control what you tolerate.Why do we always feel the need to be nosey? Why do we have to know everything that’s going on in someone else’s life? You’d be surprised how much good will come your way by minding your own business.(Mufti Menk)